ʻōlelo ʻōlelo:
Nui nā keiki makemakenā mea pāʻani pāʻani. Hoʻopaʻa lākou iā lākou ke hiamoe, ʻai a hele i waho e pāʻani. Pioloke nā mākua he nui i kēia. Manaʻo lākou no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki i kā lākou mau keiki ke launa pū me nā keiki ʻē aʻe. Ke hopohopo nei lākou he hōʻailona kēia o ka palekana o kā lākou mau keiki. Manaʻo nō hoʻi lākou inā ʻaʻole lākou e komo i ka manawa, maʻalahi ka loaʻa ʻana o nā pilikia pilikino i kā lākou mau keiki. Ke ho'āʻo nei lākou i nā mea a pau e hiki ai i kā lākou mau keiki ke "haʻalele" i kēia mau mea pāʻani.
Wehewehe ʻoiaʻiʻo:
Nui nā keiki e makemake i nā mea pāʻani. Hoʻopaʻa lākou iā lākou ke hiamoe, ʻai a hele i waho e pāʻani. Pioloke nā mākua he nui i kēia. Manaʻo lākou no ka mea ʻaʻole hiki i kā lākou mau keiki ke launa pū me nā keiki ʻē aʻe. Ke hopohopo nei lākou he hōʻailona kēia o ka palekana o kā lākou mau keiki. Manaʻo nō hoʻi lākou inā ʻaʻole lākou e komo i ka manawa, maʻalahi ka loaʻa ʻana o nā pilikia pilikino i kā lākou mau keiki. Ke ho'āʻo nei lākou i nā mea a pau e hiki ai i kā lākou mau keiki ke "haʻalele" i kēia mau mea pāʻani. Pono anei kēia mau hopohopo a me nā hopohopo? Pehea kākou e manaʻo ai i ka hilinaʻi ʻana o nā keiki i kēia mau mea pāʻani pēpē?
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"Nā hoa pili" hele pū me nā keiki i ke kūʻokoʻa
ʻAʻole pili ka makemake i nā mea pāʻani me ka manaʻo palekana
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua kapa ʻia kēia ʻano he "soft object attachment" e nā psychologists, a he hōʻike hoʻololi ia o ka ulu kūʻokoʻa o nā keiki. ʻO ka mālama ʻana i nā mea pāʻani e like me kā lākou mau "hoa noʻonoʻo" hiki ke kōkua iā lākou e hoʻopau i ka ʻehaʻeha ma kekahi mau kūlana a me nā kaiapuni, a ʻaʻole hopohopo nui nā mākua.
Ua alakaʻi ʻo psychologist Donald Wincott i ka noiʻi mua e pili ana i ke ʻano o ka pili ʻana o nā keiki i kekahi mea pāʻani palupalu a mea paha, a ua manaʻo ʻo ia he mea hoʻololi i ka ulu ʻana o nā keiki. Ua kapa ʻo ia i nā mea palupalu i hoʻopili ʻia e nā keiki i "nā mea hoʻololi". Ke ulu aʻe nā keiki, lilo lākou i mea kūʻokoʻa kūʻokoʻa ma ke ʻano noʻonoʻo, a ma ke ʻano maoli lākou e hoʻoili i kēia kākoʻo naʻau i nā wahi ʻē aʻe.
Ma ka noiʻi ʻana a Richard Passman, he keiki psychologist ma ke Kulanui o Wisconsin, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe, ua ʻike ʻia he mea maʻamau kēia "mea hoʻopili mea palupalu" maʻamau a puni ka honua. Eia kekahi laʻana, ma United States, Netherlands, New Zealand a me nā'āina'ē aʻe, ua hiki i ka 3/5 ka nui o nā keiki me ka "soft object attachment" complex, aʻo kaʻikepili ma South Korea he 1/5. Hiki ke ʻike ʻia he mea maʻamau ka hoʻopili ʻana o kekahi mau keiki i nā mea pāʻani a i ʻole nā mea palupalu. A he mea pono e hoʻomaopopo i ka hapa nui o kēia mau keiki makemake i nā mea pāʻani plush ʻaʻole i nele i ka manaʻo palekana a loaʻa kahi pilina makua-keiki maikaʻi me ko lākou mau mākua.
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Loaʻa i nā mākua ka paʻakikī o ka hilinaʻi mea palupalu
Maikaʻi ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa pono ʻana i ke kaumaha
ʻO kēlā mau keiki i hilinaʻi nui ʻianā mea pāʻani pāʻani, pehea e alakai pololei ai na makua ia lakou? Eia ʻekolu manaʻo manaʻo:
ʻO ka mea mua, mai koi iā lākou e haʻalele. Hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohuli i ko lākou manaʻo mai nā mea pāʻani kikoʻī ma o nā mea pani i makemake ʻia e nā keiki ʻē aʻe; ʻO ka lua, e hoʻoulu i nā makemake ʻē aʻe o nā keiki a alakaʻi iā lākou e ʻimi i nā mea hou, i mea e hōʻemi mālie ai i ko lākou pili ʻana i nā mea pāʻani plush; ʻO ke kolu, e paipai i nā keiki e ʻōlelo maikaʻi no kekahi manawa i kā lākou mau mea punahele, i ʻike nā keiki aia nā mea hoihoi e kali ana iā lākou.
ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, ma waho aʻe o nā keiki, nui ka poʻe mākua i pili i nā mea palupalu. No ka laʻana, makemake lākou e hāʻawi i nā mea pāʻani plush i makana, a ʻaʻohe o lākou kūʻē i nā pēpē nani i loko o ka mīkini maiʻu; no ka laʻana, makemake nui kekahi poʻe i nā lole moe ʻoi aku ma mua o nā mea a me nā lole ʻē aʻe. Koho lākou i nā ʻano plush no nā cushions ma luna o ka sofa, nā pākeke ma ka papahele, a me nā lauoho a me nā hihia kelepona paʻa ...
I ka hōʻuluʻulu manaʻo, manaʻolana wau e hiki i nā mākua ke nānā pono i ka hilinaʻi o kā lākou mau keiki i nā mea pāʻani hoʻohui, mai hopohopo nui, a mai koi aku iā lākou e haʻalele. E alakaʻi mālie iā lākou a kōkua i kā lākou pēpē e ulu i ke ala maikaʻi loa. No ka poʻe mākua, ʻoiai ʻaʻole i keu a ʻaʻole pili i ke ola maʻamau, ʻo ka hoʻohana ʻana i kekahi mau mea e pono ai i kēlā me kēia lā e hōʻoluʻolu a hoʻomaha hoʻi he ala maikaʻi ia e decompress.
Ka manawa hoʻouna: Mar-13-2025